Growing up

CHAPTER 1 :Growing up

As it is evident  from the name of my blog gyanoholics  that it is about gyan in English termed as knowledge and it is for those who are interested in knowing about things and for me  knowledge is every where  that is why I never write on any particular topic  today I have decided to write on a very important  and  very crucial issue   growing up .It is a small initiative to share my thoughts my piece of knowledge I may  or may not  be good  at it  but it is my small effort :)

Do you remember   the day when you really felt from within the need to laugh as  freely  as you used to when you were  10 years old . Have you even  spend a single day of your life not worrying for the future and living carelessly  like  you used  when you were a kid   now that is what we call as growing up  , when we grow we tend to have increased worries ,immense  work pressure and responsibilities .

Is that all ?The answer is a big no. As  each coin  has two sides  everything has its' pros and cons  same is the case with growing up .Indeed  when we  grow are responsibilities tend to increase so is our work pressure  but if you  look at the brighter side we also  grow in term of experiences we meet  new people  ,places , we have experiences that teaches us many lessons some good some bad  we make new friends,  we  make  mistakes  (as we know  human is to err )  but  we learn to forgive and forget  and let go .Not only this  we  play more important  role in our family  we are no more anybody's responsibility we tend to become independent  and we have the strength to provide a shoulder to lean  ,we can support our families be there for them and be an asset to them we  become capable to serve  our society, be of some use to  our nation  ,we can become almost  anything  just  if we  are persistent  .We learn the essence of life  the key to success that is patience   we also learn what is known as healthy competition .

  

Awesome  we can  do so much   just by growing up isn't that wonderful  but for few  this process is a tough one owing to many reasons and let me  tell you the fact  most of us  go through this thing  and consider it as the most toughest  phase of our life as  suddenly everything changes  when we are a kid  we are protected by our parents   taught  good things we have no ideas of bad and evils  but as we grow up  the real world is far more different from our fairytale world  we are no more that much protected  that scares  the hell out of us .

 Growing up  and growing old are two different thing  most of us can grow old  but not grow up we all grow in terms of our age  but growing up is our choice  i am not saying   that we should  forget  the mantra  that always remain a child from inside I am an ardent supporter of that its' just growing up a bit  may help us to become more responsible and helpful to our people and will enable us to have more opportunities and more experiences .

A short poem by me : 

the more Igrow  

the more I know 

world  is not limited to birds and crow

it is far more than that 

I can bet on that 

we do not come in the world  just like that

we have a role to play 

it is  not just another day 

each day counts 

life is as high as mounts 

Growing up should  be understood in a very well manner as it is important for us it should not be confused  with growing old neither  only it should be judged by its' one aspect of increased work pressure   other aforesaid good aspects should be considered.I hope my article may help you in this subject :)

As we grow up what do we need the most ????????????

 Patience

Boiling with anger and frustration

wrong, wrong and wrong only this is today's reputation

felling helpless 

being extremely reckless

don't know where to land

not even if it is way too grand 

absence of passion

less happiness ration

don't know where to go ,they say just go slow 

don't know how to achieve it ,problems just tend to grow 

still waiting for the time come

to be what I want to become

CHAPTER2 : Burning doll

Now talking about fading innocence it can be understood in two ways that how children today are loosing their innocence  because of  our world famous  idiot box TELEVISION  children  see irrelevant things from it and ape it  (as children  are monkeys :P just kidding)   my mom says children are like  blank paper they will become whatever they are taught . In my neighborhood there is a little girl who comes to play with me every evening  I have noticed that she talks about things which are above her age and sometimes while talking to her even I feel  I am talking to an adult she shows very less signs of innocence this is saddening these people should play  outside should enjoy a happy childhood instead of  replicating what's there  in that idiot box  and even nuclear family system sometimes affect them and they get glued to television I am not an ardent supporter of joint family system as it has it's own disadvantages but  if  possible  children should be with friends or family more than that  idiot box  which rarely tells what's right or wrong .


The  second way to understand fading innocence is observing teens  they learn mean things  and want to be deemed as  cool  all these leads to the much discussed vicious circle  of peer pressure which snatches the simplicity and innocence of an individual and all these even leads to depression and anxiety in teens .The feeling of unnecessary  hatred ,comparisons ,attention seeking behavior arises due to this. The team spirit ,the will to do something good for the society all these are ignored above all the  innocence is lost .


Certain changes  are required  to save these  burning dolls from loosing their innocence before it's too late .


CHAPTER 3 :EXPECTATIONS

expectations  you all  must have  some sort  of expectations  regarding your work career  love life  etc  (as  list always goes on  :P  we humans  are like that only :P ) it just does not end   many  movies and  serials  are made on these   khawashein   song from heroine movie is  also  about expectations (my favorite :P)   so  basically  world is full of expectations some  are  right some wrong .



friend  or foe 

expectations  can be our best friend  as  when we expect   we  tend to  take initiative  but expectations  can be our real enemy  when taken  wrong route  to make it  simpler when  expectations are    right  like  which can be fulfilled  then it is our  friend  and it gives a sense of direction  for instance  a student tend  to expect  certain percentage  and  work hard  accordingly   expectations takes  ugly turn  when  these are wrong in nature   best example  is  we  human  always   have  wrong expectations  from our loved ones  and  when they do not meet them  we get heart broken  and sometimes  we  over expect many  things from ourselves   we forget  we are humans  and  we  start treating ourselves  like a machine ,


So  to   sum up   expectations  are not a problem  when it is right  and reachable  and it  is  a mammoth problem when  converted into over or wrong expectation



few lines by me :

I   expect  you to  respect
 even if I  constantly  suspect
sometimes  even I wonder  I over expect
my faith  in you  and  my work for you  should compel you
your  feelings  should not be forced it should be true
if you do not like me I have no right to object
that is your subject :)